I'm Dorit Tomandl, LMFT (She/her/hers)
I became a therapist because my own therapy changed my life: I found inner freedom and true happiness. I also found a new purpose in life - helping others the way my therapists helped me.
Before I started this journey, my life didn't look so bad from the outside: I was married and had 2 children, lived in a nice house in the suburbs. But nobody saw my struggles because I had learned to hide them well as a child, growing up with functioning alcoholic parents and a father who was a little 'too nice' to me. My ex-husband was emotionally abusive; I struggled with anxiety and panic attacks and depression. My coping skills consisted of food and shopping. On the inside, I felt empty and hollow and very lonely.
I started seeing a therapist to feel better, even though I had no idea what that would look like. And then, for the first time in my life, somebody listened to me and tried to understand how I was feeling. Someone gave me answers to questions I didn't even know I had. I learned that I am not bad, but that bad things happened to me.
Nowadays, I still want to eat too much or buy shoes when life gets rough. I still have anxiety and panic attacks on occasion or feel depressed and hopeless. The big difference is that I know what to do with my emotions, how to stay present with them without getting sucked into the downward spiral of darkness and emptiness. That it is OK to not be happy all the time, to accept 'bad emotions' as a normal part of life.
If you want to feel whole and learn to understand what is going on inside you, I would be honored to walk this journey with you. I will sit with you and be on your side for every step of this adventure and show you how to become comfortable with uncomfortableness.
If you come into my office as a couple, I will help you to talk and listen to each other so that you can approach the tough topics in your relationship. Imagine a difficult conversation where both of you can stay calm and feel heard and understood - it is possible!
My approach to therapy is IFS informed and I specialize in the healing of trauma. I consider knowledge (from books) and wisdom (from life experiences) the two pillars of my expertise as a therapist. As a Marriage and Family therapist, I can help you to transform your relationships (with yourself and others) from a source of pain to a source of healing and fulfillment.
My schedule is very flexible, I work evenings and weekends and offer virtual or in person sessions. Contact us now to schedule a free consultation or to book an appointment with me! :-)